Your highest performers tell you they are leaving because they’ve been offered more money at another company. But it’s not always true.
Some leave because they’re exhausted.
And often, you won’t see it coming.
In my HR career, I sat in countless Talent Review Meetings. Leaders spent enormous effort identifying high-potential talent – our “Hi-Pos.” We invested heavily in their development, planning for a future ROI.
But what if they burn out before the return is realized?
Take “Elena” (not her real name). She was brilliant, articulate, and already seen as a future VP. At the same time, she was a mom, caring for an ill parent, and married to a partner with an equally demanding career. From the outside, she had it all together.
On the inside, she was running on fumes. Skipped meals. Sleepless nights. Guilt over missed school events. Guilt over leaving work at 5:00. Anxiety that she was “barely enough” at work and home.
When she finally spoke to me, she was in tears. She was already deep into burnout and seriously considering quitting.
Her story isn’t rare. It’s a pattern I see often: High-performing women, carrying heavy loads at work and at home, who silently burn out. Then, something breaks.
Why High Performers Burn Out First
- They say yes too often. Elena rarely turned down requests, even when she was stretched thin.
- They self-silence. She didn’t want to appear weak, to others or in her own eyes, so she kept going.
- They set very high standards. She expected excellence in every domain. No tolerance for “good enough.”
- They become over-relied on. Her leadership team leaned heavily on her because she always showed up.
These dynamics don’t just exhaust energy. They erode engagement, focus, and resilience.
Recent Data on Burnout in High Performers: The Numbers Back It Up
To show this isn’t just one person’s story, here are some recent findings:
- A McKinsey/LeanIn survey of ~65,000 U.S. employees found 42% of women report feeling burned out, compared with 35% of men. Constant “always-on” expectations make a difference. (UNLEASH)
- Deloitte research across 5,000 women in 10 countries showed 53% of women say their stress levels are higher than a year ago, and almost half feel burned out. (Deloitte)
- According to McKinsey Health Institute, 37% of adult caregivers report high burnout symptoms (emotional, exhaustion, cognitive impairment), compared to lower rates for those caring for children. Caring for ill family members is a serious risk factor. (McKinsey & Company)
- In a report about “high performers,” 53% of them said they are burnt out; higher than the rate among typical employees. (Modern Health)
These stats show that burnout isn’t rare; it is widespread. And for high-potential talent, like Elena, the risks are compounded.
The Leadership Blind Spot – Burnout in High Performers
Many leaders assume that if someone is delivering, they’re okay. But that assumption is dangerous. High performers, especially those in caregiving roles or with heavy home responsibilities, often:
- Mask their stress
- Push through until they don’t have a choice
- Avoid asking for help to protect their reputation
This means that by the time the visible signals show up (e.g., a decline in quality, missed deadlines, withdrawal, lost enthusiasm) it’s already very serious.
What Leaders Can Do About Burnout in High Performers
Here are practical actions to prevent the burnout of your top people:
- Redefine what success looks like. Celebrate sustainable performance, not just long hours.
- Spot subtle signals. Fatigue, irritability, disengagement. If a previously reliable leader becomes quiet, don’t assume it’s just “busyness.”
- Normalize asking for help. Create real space (not just a policy) for people to speak up when they’re overloaded.
- Audit workload and responsibility. Distribute critical tasks more evenly; avoid defaulting always to your top people.
- Support caregivers explicitly. Recognize that caregiving responsibilities (for children or adult parents) are major stressors. Flexibility and benefit plan design matter.
The Bottom Line
Elena’s story is painful, but we can learn from it. Burnout doesn’t just cause turnover. It dims innovation, erodes trust, damages reputation, and weakens organizational culture.
If your high performers are burning out first, then the real risk is not only losing talent, but also momentum, credibility, and the strategy you’re trying to execute.
I’ve worked with many leaders to identify burnout risk, redesign what’s broken, and protect their people (and culture) from burnout. If you want to be the leader who prevents that from happening, let’s connect.
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Learn more about ways to recognize burnout on your team: Your Team is Burned-Out! Nine Ways to Recognize It

